The same pet peeve hits me this time of year. The back to school celebrations by mom. I get it, believe me I do. You're tired, you've had your kids home all summer. You've gone through the endless "I'm bored" cycle, the sibling squabbles, the attempts to find fun summer activities to keep them entertained. I understand. Back to school is always accompanied by the commercials of moms celebrating their kids going back. They are attempts at humor and usually I just grumble and go on about my business. However, this year was different for me.
This year there was a video or two circulating in which the moms were saying things like "I pay you to take my kids back." They say things like get these kids out of my house! I can't wait for them to go away. You get the idea. And I'm sure you've seen them.
Guess what mom...your kid is listening! Your kid is hearing about how you just can't wait to get rid of them. You can't wait until they aren't around every day. You can't wait until you have time to yourself without the bother of them. Your kids hear it all and take that into their tiny little hearts and it becomes a part of their being and who they are. I don't care if you're saying it in jest, they still hear the words.
Imagine if your husband was to make a video and share it about how he just can't wait until you're gone from the house because you drive him crazy and he can't stand having you around him for two months of the year. You'd be as mad as a wet hen, and I don't blame you...I'd be mad, too. Are your kids any different?
They don't need to hear that you're so happy that they are going away because they've made you go insane over the summer. Instead try to think of it in a positive way. Say things like "I bet you can't wait to go back to school because you're missing your friends." or "You're going to have such a great school year because you're in a new grade." Be positive. You can even think of the fun things you've done over the summer and let them know "I really enjoyed our time together at the zoo. I can't wait till we can do that again." or "We had a blast at the beach, just imagine how fun next year will be." I am even going to go there...how about saying something along the lines of "I've enjoyed being home with you this summer. You're my favorite person on earth and I love hanging out with you. I am going to miss you while you're gone." If you have to grumble and complain about them being home or how you can't wait until they are out of the house, at least do it privately where they can't hear you.
Before you know it, momma, your nest is going to be empty. You're going to blink and be looking back at memories of those first days of school and wishing that you'd had them back. Shoot, I'll even venture to say that you'll be looking back to the chaos of those crazy summers and missing them as well. Enjoy them while you have them.